What comes to mind if I ask you the simple question, ‘can you get a connection?’
Perhaps what comes to mind is an image of the frantic raiding of inside pockets and hand-bags as a train comes in to a station or a tube train emerges from a tunnel.
Perhaps a small but persistent box reminding you that your chosen network needs a passcode.
Increasingly, the ease with which we live our lives is determined by the strength of our connection to the internet. And the times that we’re not connected are etched into our mind as times of frustration and zero productivity.
Being connected is an essential, no doubt.
But let’s ask that initial question in a slightly different way.
Can you get a connection with people?
Can you connect with friends, colleagues and the stakeholders in your working life? When it’s time to put down your device and connect with the people in the same space as you – to seal the deal, land your point or simply to share an experience – do things go as well as you might hope?
And to ask that question once more, again in a slightly different way: can you get a connection with yourself?
If you didn’t mean to say something, what did you mean to say? Why are some things so hard to say in the first place? If you feel uncertain about the future, could it be that you’ve yet to digest the lessons from the past, to discover who you are and to connect with your own sense of purpose?
In a world in which an individual’s sense of wellbeing is intrinsically linked to their digital connectivity, much of our executive coaching work seems to be about helping people to connect with those around them, and to connect with their own values and beliefs. To think about their own connectivity.
We call this My-Fi.
My-Fi identifies six key strands to personal communications, three of which are within you, as an individual, and three of which are about how you connect with external audiences.
The internal aspects are self-talk, feelings and values and beliefs.
The external audiences are colleagues, stakeholders and the wider world beyond.
It is our belief that if you can align what’s happening in your own mind and body with what you want to say to people, you have a much higher chance of connecting with people in a way that is authentic, credible and effective.
My-Fi: How To Connect With Yourself And Those Around You, by Ken Kelling and Chris Wood, is available to download as a free e-book here.